MEMORIES

I remember the day when you said being with me meant that you would be happy. That you wanted to be selfish because you could not stand the thought of someone else being with me. What happened to that man that I fall in love with where did he go?  I question that everyday. You tell me it is because I accused you of things you were not doing that you did what you did eventually. How does that make it right? All of this time you gave me a reason to be how I was, not once did you apologize for it. Now that hurts, because  I really cared about you, and still do.

Do you 
remember when I said  I love you? I wasn’t lying. Remember when we used to talk for hours and tell each other everything? I miss that, I miss us but someone or something always seemed to be against us. Namely that oppa loppa…  It is sad because we really had something special but it just seemed like all I did was push you closer to her. You used to give me butterfiles in my tummy and  you still do. I would always try and place you in the friend zone and take you back out because I could not help myself. I could not wait until the next time I saw you. We always be on the phone and we always saw each other.



Maybe we do not get to be in each others lives, maybe we were unable to climb the enormous mountain together, maybe we don’t get a happily ever after. I would love to say all of this is true but the truth is i still love you and still want you. The truth is no matter how far away you are,  no matter what you might say or do my mind always finds a way to end up thinking about you.  Maybe you don’t need me anymore, one day you’ll wake up and realize that there is no one else in the world like me, that I’m one of a kind.

Hoping that you’ll want me back one day and maybe that day ill still need you. It’s like I have tired to say this over and over again to you but it just does not come out that way. You found someone else ok fine, I can not say that it does not hurt because lord knows that it does.  I will find a way to get over it just be honest with me that’s all I ask for. Do not give me false hope for something that I think might happen but will not happen.

I can at least say that at some point we shared something, and you felt the same way I did. Who knows maybe you still feel the same way.  
 But we will never know that now will we. 

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BAD RELATIONSHIPS



When god blesses you, he does so; however when the Devil wants to destroy you he will stop at nothing to do it and do it with people that you least except. 

Relationships come in different forms, good, bad, with a friend or a boyfriend/girlfriend. 

All relationships/ friendship start off good but some how sometimes slowly end up becoming toxic to yourself and to your walk with god. These are the type of relationships that we do not want in our lives because they break us down and turn us into someone that we are not. 
      

“Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’”-1 Corinthians 15:33

King Solomon wrote, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity” (Proverbs 17:17).

A toxic friendship can cause a lot of damage, emotionally, mentally, even physically. Here’s how you can tell the difference. 

I have had many instances where I have been in bad relationships, or have had toxic friends that were not doing anything for me but bringing me down. It is not to say that I hate these people because I do not hate or wish bad upon any of these people that have hurt. I just know in my heart that I am moving on from what was bad in my life to what is good.  Yes! Letting go is not the easiest thing in the world to do but it is something that we all must do when something is not right for us. Letting go of a relationship does not mean you are letting go of love, or that you don’t love someone anymore. Ending a relationship by Letting go doesn’t mean we will (or should) stop caring about a person, and it doesn’t mean we should be unkind, gossip about them, have anger, bitterness and un-forgiveness, or never talk to a person again. 



How can you let go of a bad relationship? 

Psalm 147:3, ESV He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
2 Corinthians 6:14, ESV Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
If you are not married yet, please, please, please, do not marry an unbeliever. Please.
If you are already married to an unbeliever, that’s a different story altogether – Please, pray for their salvation and be an example and a shining light in all you do, by God’s grace. Don’t give up on praying and in believing, and ask God to help you to be patient, loving, kind, gentle and forgiving, to always be an ambassador for Him, and to know how to handle every situation you may encounter in your marriage (as with all marriages). Amen.

Psalm 27:14, NASB Wait for the LORD; Be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the LORD.
Psalm 73:26, ESV My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.

Qualities of true friendship Expert from Life Hope and Truth

God’s Word is filled with ways to identify qualities of a true friendship. Here are some to consider:
  • True friends are loyal. They stand by you in good and bad times. Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend loves at all times.” Proverbs 18:24 adds, “A man who has friends must himself be friendly, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
  • In a true friendship, there is reciprocity—a healthy balance of giving and receiving.
  • True friends don’t flatter. They tell the truth, even when their honesty may sting. In Proverbs 27:6 King Solomon was inspired to write, “Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.”
  • A true friend is trustworthy and reliable. You can count on that person to keep your secrets, give you good counsel when you ask for it, and to always speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15).
  • A true friend is loving—not with a selfish type of love, but with the kind that puts others’ needs first. There is a well-known chapter in the Bible about what real love is. It says, “Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (1 Corinthians13:4-7).
  • A true friend will not try to lead you to do things that are wrong or hurtful, but rather is there to support you and encourage you to make right, healthy and proper choices in your life (Proverbs 1:10-14Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).

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VOICE

Growing up I never was given the chance to speak my mind so I reverted to creative outlets to express myself. People made fun of me and told me I would never amount to anything. I was always told that I can be seen but never to be heard. Throughout all of this I was the one that was told I was wrong for what I was doing. So naturally now I apologize for everything I do even if I am doing something right.

The only place I have found that I feel like I am naturally able to be myself and not feel sorry is in front of the camera. I can not tell you how many times I usually get that you are a total complete other person. I do agree with this because I know how to channel different things at the right time and place. 
It is funny because when I got accepted to Penn State Altoona, my uncle asked me “how did you do that its a foot ball school is it not?” Well yes penn state is a foot ball school, however I busted my butt off to get into that school and i never actually ended up going at all. I was disappointed and let down that I did not know what to do.
I find that a lot of times what happens with me is inside of my head I know what I want and where I want to be and it most of the time it happens. However I notice that I ask for what it is that I want or ask for help from people that I know love and care about me so I let it go and don’t say anything.  I still get what I want but I don’t say anything. I know I have to speak up though and find my voice.
If I do not find my voice how can I minister to other woman or be an inspiration to others.
All essence there more people that are out there trying to find their voices 
If you do not find your voice and declare truth over your life, the people around you and in the places you already have influence, who will? What we need to  focus on is reclaiming or finding our voice to declare truth into our own lives, to our situations or the people and obstacles in front of us.
“Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.” – Luke 16:10
Never stop dreaming and going after all that it is God has called you to and put in your heart. However, in the midst of the journey don’t forget where you are right now and how critical your voice is to the story being written in your life.The reality is that all around there are voices declaring all sorts of things and it isn’t always truth, what releases life, or gives hope. 

1. Declare the promises of God in your life and to the people around you.

We pray we plan we prepare we do!!!!!! 
Habakkuk 2:2 
2. Declare the Word of God.
…so is my word that goes out from my mouth: It will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it. – Isaiah 55:11
3. Pray in the Spirit.

“In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God.” – Romans 8:26-27
“For anyone who speaks in a tongue[a] does not speak to people but to God. Indeed, no one understands them; they utter mysteries by the Spirit.” – 1 Corinthians 14:2
4. Ask God for help.

In my distress I called to the Lord; I cried to my God for help. From his temple he heard my voice; my cry came before him, into his ears. – Psalm 18:6
5. Listen to what the voice of God is saying.

Romans 8:14, “For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God.” Conversely, this scripture implies that if we are God’s children, if we are born-again, we will be led by His Spirit.”


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SELF CONFIDENCE

I am not going to lie as I write this blog post, I am finding it hard to figure out what I am going to write. I have been suffering from major pressure headaches that make it very hard for me to focus.I have been going through a lot in my personal life. I know that within me I need to to find a way to continue stay positive and change my mindset so that I can accomplish all of the goals that I want to accomplish.


One these goals being self-confidence and body image. What I see and feel is different from what the world sees. I feel I am fat, and not in shape, I eat all of the wrong foods and just do not feel confident in myself. When the world looks at me they see someone with issues and someone who might need to gain weight, boobs too small, no butt, acne. Maybe it is the fact that I need to find a healthier lifestyle and stability in my life.

Regardless of how I may feel, I do know that God is doing something inside me and it is a transformation that he is making. I admit that it is a process that is taking a little longer than usual but it is so worth it. I find so much joy in God and being involved in my church the way that I am.

Remember, if you are a Christian, you are living in the world, but you are not “of” the world. The rules of world’s peoples, their esteem, their clothing, everything of theirs is just that, theirs; not given over to God’s will. You are God’s loved child, and as his child, you must rely fully on him for everything, including self-esteem.

does not mean that Christians should have low self-esteem. It only means that our sense of being a good person should not depend on what we do, but rather on who we are in Christ. We need to humble ourselves before Him, and He will honor us. Psalm 16:2 reminds us, “I said to the Lord, ‘You are my Lord; apart from you I have no good thing.’” Christians attain self-worth and esteem by having a right relationship with God. We can know we are valuable because of the high price God paid for us through the blood of His Son, Jesus Christ.

In one sense, low self-esteem is the opposite of pride. In another sense, low-self-esteem is a form of pride. Some people have low self-esteem because they want people to feel sorry for them, to pay attention to them, to comfort them. Low self-esteem can be a declaration of “look at me” just as much as pride. It simply takes a different route to get to the same destination, that is, self-absorption, self-obsession, and selfishness. Instead, we are to be selfless, to die to self, and to deflect any attention given to us to the great God who created and sustains us.

I admit those this is not easy because I am not used to giving everything to God. I am not used to allowing God in fully to be who he needs to be in my life.

I wrote this post because I felt a need to express this as well as giving you hope and being transparent in a different way but helping women with their image. Also because there is one particular person that radiates self-confidence that I love Demi Lovato.

 

I think it’s something I’ve always wanted to be able to do, but I never had the confidence to do so,” she revealed. “I’ve trained really hard in the last year with getting in shape and getting stronger and I’m finally at the point in my life where I feel comfortable going on stage and just totally rocking out in short shorts. I’m so excited to finally have that kind of confidence.”


Pray: Lord, I ask You to give me wisdom as to what I give my time and attention. Help me to be busy with the right things and to give my best to those things. Amen.

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POWER IN PRAYER!




Everyone always wants power! Where do we find the most power? We find it in prayer, and believeing that the supernatural can happen. Now days people want to say theres no god out of a fear that there is one. You choose what you want to believe in. You choose where you want to go.  The power of prayer should not be underestimated. James 5:16-18 declares, “…The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective. Elijah was a man just like us. He prayed earnestly that it would not rain, and it did not rain on the land for three and a half years. Again he prayed, and the heavens gave rain, and the earth produced its crops.” The power of prayer is not the result of the person praying. Rather, the power resides in the God who is being prayed to. 1 John 5:14-15 tells us, “This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us – whatever we ask – we know that we have what we asked of him.” 

  • Prayer lays hold of  God’s plan and becomes the link between His will and its accomplishment on earth. Amazing things happen, and we are given the privilege of being the channels of the Holy Spirit’s prayer.
    Elisabeth Elliot

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