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MY BFF

See I felt such strong and change that my blog post was going to be an outfit of the day post to day. However I decided to do a special blog post dedicated to my only female best friend as well as kill two birds with one stone and do my homework assignment for my armor bearers class. 

Anywho, the last female best friend I had was when I was like 5, the only reason why were are not friends any more is because I moved around so many times growing up that I lost contact with her. With that said I literally have not had a female best friend since then. Reason for me not having a female best friend is because I have found it so ridiculously hard to have female friends that I can legitimately trust with out feeling like they are going to do something shady to me behind my back, use me, try to take my boyfriends, or they just don’t understand me at all. 
With all of this said someone who has taken my heart and ran with it , has loved me back to life in times that I needed real love, times when I wanted to kill myself, times when I was not sure if this was the right decision that I wanted to make. She’s been through 2 major break ups with me has helped me get back into amazing status. With her I have found my new found love of God. A love that has me feeling like someone that is alive which is a feeling that I have not felt in years. A feeling that I do not want to disappear at all. Do not get me wrong I have some friends that I consider to be like family to me, but she got the title of BFF.
This best friend is Lillian Lightbourn, she says she is inspired by me but I am inspired by her and her love of God. I love her drive and admire her God driven career in modeling. She is beautiful and kind and because of her I love coffee and creamer. lol. I miss her so much as she is away in London doing her thing modeling and I give her everything and commend her for everything that she has done and is about to do. So I love you lilli and I hope this answers my homework question in more than just a paragraph! 
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BAD RELATIONSHIPS



When god blesses you, he does so; however when the Devil wants to destroy you he will stop at nothing to do it and do it with people that you least except. 

Relationships come in different forms, good, bad, with a friend or a boyfriend/girlfriend. 

All relationships/ friendship start off good but some how sometimes slowly end up becoming toxic to yourself and to your walk with god. These are the type of relationships that we do not want in our lives because they break us down and turn us into someone that we are not. 
      

“Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’”-1 Corinthians 15:33

King Solomon wrote, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity” (Proverbs 17:17).

A toxic friendship can cause a lot of damage, emotionally, mentally, even physically. Here’s how you can tell the difference. 

I have had many instances where I have been in bad relationships, or have had toxic friends that were not doing anything for me but bringing me down. It is not to say that I hate these people because I do not hate or wish bad upon any of these people that have hurt. I just know in my heart that I am moving on from what was bad in my life to what is good.  Yes! Letting go is not the easiest thing in the world to do but it is something that we all must do when something is not right for us. Letting go of a relationship does not mean you are letting go of love, or that you don’t love someone anymore. Ending a relationship by Letting go doesn’t mean we will (or should) stop caring about a person, and it doesn’t mean we should be unkind, gossip about them, have anger, bitterness and un-forgiveness, or never talk to a person again. 



How can you let go of a bad relationship? 

Psalm 147:3, ESV He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
2 Corinthians 6:14, ESV Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
If you are not married yet, please, please, please, do not marry an unbeliever. Please.
If you are already married to an unbeliever, that’s a different story altogether – Please, pray for their salvation and be an example and a shining light in all you do, by God’s grace. Don’t give up on praying and in believing, and ask God to help you to be patient, loving, kind, gentle and forgiving, to always be an ambassador for Him, and to know how to handle every situation you may encounter in your marriage (as with all marriages). Amen.

Psalm 27:14, NASB Wait for the LORD; Be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the LORD.
Psalm 73:26, ESV My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.

Qualities of true friendship Expert from Life Hope and Truth

God’s Word is filled with ways to identify qualities of a true friendship. Here are some to consider:
  • True friends are loyal. They stand by you in good and bad times. Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend loves at all times.” Proverbs 18:24 adds, “A man who has friends must himself be friendly, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
  • In a true friendship, there is reciprocity—a healthy balance of giving and receiving.
  • True friends don’t flatter. They tell the truth, even when their honesty may sting. In Proverbs 27:6 King Solomon was inspired to write, “Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.”
  • A true friend is trustworthy and reliable. You can count on that person to keep your secrets, give you good counsel when you ask for it, and to always speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15).
  • A true friend is loving—not with a selfish type of love, but with the kind that puts others’ needs first. There is a well-known chapter in the Bible about what real love is. It says, “Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (1 Corinthians13:4-7).
  • A true friend will not try to lead you to do things that are wrong or hurtful, but rather is there to support you and encourage you to make right, healthy and proper choices in your life (Proverbs 1:10-14Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).

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