I am not going to lie as I write this blog post, I am finding it hard to figure out what I am going to write. I have been suffering from major pressure headaches that make it very hard for me to focus.I have been going through a lot in my personal life. I know that within me I need to to find a way to continue stay positive and change my mindset so that I can accomplish all of the goals that I want to accomplish.

One these goals being self-confidence and body image. What I see and feel is different from what the world sees. I feel I am fat, and not in shape, I eat all of the wrong foods and just do not feel confident in myself. When the world looks at me they see someone with issues and someone who might need to gain weight, boobs too small, no butt, acne. Maybe it is the fact that I need to find a healthier lifestyle and stability in my life.

Regardless of how I may feel, I do know that God is doing something inside me and it is a transformation that he is making. I admit that it is a process that is taking a little longer than usual but it is so worth it. I find so much joy in God and being involved in my church the way that I am.

Remember, if you are a Christian, you are living in the world, but you are not “of” the world. The rules of world’s peoples, their esteem, their clothing, everything of theirs is just that, theirs; not given over to God’s will. You are God’s loved child, and as his child, you must rely fully on him for everything, including self-esteem.

does not mean that Christians should have low self-esteem. It only means that our sense of being a good person should not depend on what we do, but rather on who we are in Christ. We need to humble ourselves before Him, and He will honor us. Psalm 16:2 reminds us, “I said to the Lord, ‘You are my Lord; apart from you I have no good thing.’” Christians attain self-worth and esteem by having a right relationship with God. We can know we are valuable because of the high price God paid for us through the blood of His Son, Jesus Christ.

In one sense, low self-esteem is the opposite of pride. In another sense, low-self-esteem is a form of pride. Some people have low self-esteem because they want people to feel sorry for them, to pay attention to them, to comfort them. Low self-esteem can be a declaration of “look at me” just as much as pride. It simply takes a different route to get to the same destination, that is, self-absorption, self-obsession, and selfishness. Instead, we are to be selfless, to die to self, and to deflect any attention given to us to the great God who created and sustains us.

I admit those this is not easy because I am not used to giving everything to God. I am not used to allowing God in fully to be who he needs to be in my life.

I wrote this post because I felt a need to express this as well as giving you hope and being transparent in a different way but helping women with their image. Also because there is one particular person that radiates self-confidence that I love Demi Lovato.










I think it’s something I’ve always wanted to be able to do, but I never had the confidence to do so,” she revealed. “I’ve trained really hard in the last year with getting in shape and getting stronger and I’m finally at the point in my life where I feel comfortable going on stage and just totally rocking out in short shorts. I’m so excited to finally have that kind of confidence.”



Pray: Lord, I ask You to give me wisdom as to what I give my time and attention. Help me to be busy with the right things and to give my best to those things. Amen.

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